Why is it when you say no to someone they immediately ask for a reason? As if to say you owe them an explanation for your decision. Ummm, excuse me, but when did we become so comfortable with explaining ourselves?
Do you ever catch yourself doing the. ummm I didn’t know I had to explain myself, head nod? Yes that’s the one. lol Well welcome to my world. I refuse to explain myself anymore. I did that for 33 years of my life and all it got me was an early onset of grey hairs and a ton of stress! Do you know why this is? Well I’ll tell you why. It is because at some point or another I explained myself too much. I explained myself and now inquiring minds want this to be an all the time event. Well no way! I took my life back and if you want a stress free life I suggest you do the same.
Did a light bulb just go off in your head? Well if it didn’t, it should have. This is the moment you realize that you too have explained yourself way too much to people. I am not trying to be bossy here but you have got to stop explaining yourself to others. I understand that this is not going to be an easy task. You are going to have the guilt feeling. You are going to get resistance but stay strong and nip those suckers in the bud immediately! That’s right stand your ground.
The best tip I can give you is this:
You should never agree to something because you felt guilted into it. That right there spells out a recipe for disaster from the get go. Only agree to what you can and want to do and leave the rest for others to agree to. This comes back to the saying that you can’t please everyone. It is sad but true and a ton of us spend way too much of our time pleasing others. So from now on spend more time on the betterment of yourself and less time explaining yourself to others. Try it, it really is stress relieving!
Til next time…..